A win does not always involve a jacket or trophy. A win does not mean you are the best. A win without heart and humility is not really a win. A win where others get hurt is actually a loss in disguise. A win you think you carried for the team makes you selfish. A win can simply be doing better than you did last tine.
We push our kids to win. Do we push them to win well?
One of my daughters took home a jacket and a medal this weekend after coming back to right a second place finish last year. The other fought a battle to take 10th after a joyfully delivered routine hit zero on the mat.
They are both winners.